My husband and I have been fostering in Fairfax County for three years. It’s one of the best and hardest jobs in the world. What makes it the hardest, is the same reason people say the following statement when they find out I’m a foster mom, “I could never do that, I would get too attached.” Fostering is tough, but it is worth it, it is needed, and it is an important role in our society and in the foster child’s life and family.
But the answer is simple. You can’t. You have a choice: to remain emotionally distant to avoid getting hurt OR to love, get “too attached,” and therefore invite heartbreak into your life. There are no in-betweens.
Every child deserves to know unhindered love. If I can’t give that, I have no business fostering. To love is to be vulnerable, to open yourself up to someone enough that they could break your heart. No holding back. No walls allowed. This is one of the best gifts you can give to a foster child.
Ways You Can Help and Information
If you can’t foster, there are plenty of other ways to help! Check out the links below to read more about the need, tangible ways to help, and to get information from your local county government. Most counties hold monthly interest meetings, which means you can show up and get more information without any obligation.
Foster Care: A Quick Introduction
Impact Foster Care Closet of Northern Virginia
Together We Rise
Counties and Foster Care Agencies and Support
Prince George’s County
Northern Virginia Family Services
Bethany Christian Services