We’ve all seen it, kids rushing to their rooms to play video games with or without their friends or play with random people online. Video games are not what they once were and are currently designed to get players to come back again and again to see the latest plays, collaborations, scenes, gear, and more. It gives players a high and it is clear that video game addiction is real. So how do we stop video game addiction?
How can we help prevent or stop video game addiction and from being in our children’s minds and thoughts constantly? It is tricky because video games are pervasive. Even if we don’t have games at our homes, they could go to their friends and play there. Here are things parents can do to help solve or prevent Video Game Addiction (VGA).
1. Talk with Children about Video Game Addiction
It may sound simple, but having a talk with children about video games and how they are addictive is crucial. Open discussions about ways we can avoid video games from taking precious time, mental space, creativity, and more is a must. We know that if children constantly play video games, it can literally rob them of their childhood. And we need to help our children come to terms with this reality.
Children typically like to be in control and feel a sense of independence. Helping them gather critical information and come up with a clear plan of action to combat or stop video game addiction is ideal. Perhaps they could write a paper, create art, give a speech, make a YouTube video, or more. When they understand the power of their choices, it makes a huge difference. As parents, it is important that we empower them to make wise choices now so they can also make good decisions later.
2. Video Game Content
Sadly, a lot of video games are violent first person shooter games. Whatsmore, gamers can see blood, body parts flying, bombs, etc. It’s a battle literally and figuratively. When children see this over and over, they become desensitized to violence. In addition to seeing violence, children can connect with people gaming all over the world. Some see it as fine, but others don’t — especially for kids. What can seem like an innocent connection could quickly turn into predatory behavior.
Again, talking with children about the actual content of video games with violence and potential connections, is so important! Do they think it is good for their mental health to see people being blasted on a screen? Do they think it is safe to connect with random people over gaming? When we help our children think critically about actions and decisions, we help give them confidence to listen to their inner voice about what is right and wrong with video games.
3. How to Stop Video Game Addiction
First thing is first: set clear boundaries and consequences regarding video games. Video Game Addiction can affect their safety, brain health, creativity, friendships, sports, responsibilities, and more. Now that we have discussed this with our kids, we can focus on having a mutual conversation about parameters regarding video games. Of course, families could choose to have a home free from video games. If video games are in a household, here are some discussion questions to prevent or stop video game addiction:
- Where are the video games located? If a video game is located in a child’s room, it may be a temptation. Perhaps devices should be stored in the parent’s room so it isn’t as accessible. Perhaps families have a gaming room that is only available at certain times.
- What time limits are there with video games? In our household, we do not allow screens during the week since we are busy with school, sports, and activities. We choose to not let video games take time away from us. We do allow some video game playing on the weekends, but it is never an all day thing! We may do it for half an hour and then do it for another half hour later during the day. Every family is different. Figure out your personal time limits and share them with the family.
- What responsibilities need to be done before gaming occurs? If a child has homework, chores, a messy room, needs to shower, has a sports practice, if it is dinner time, etc. then gaming is not allowed.
- What rules are there when interacting with people online? Obviously, children should not share their name, age, address, phone number, or photos. These are hard and clear expectations.
- What games are allowed and not allowed? Some games are very violent and others aren’t. Choosing games that are rated appropriately is a must.
- How do we handle peer pressure to game? If a child chooses to completely stop gaming–great! They are being true to themselves. If they are in a situation where others are talking about gaming, they can simply say that it doesn’t interest them and they prefer soccer or painting or writing. Or if they have house rules, they can simply say “I only play for 30 minutes on the weekend.” It is ok to be different!
- What consequences are there if a rule is broken? If a child is dishonest, falls behind in school, has a mini-rage after playing a game, etc. as the parent, you have full control over what is and isn’t allowed at home. If a child does something that is not aligned with your values, then take the device away for days, weeks, or months. They will be fine!
- What are the expectations when playing video games elsewhere? I was recently at a library and saw two young boys playing video games on the computer while the babysitter talked on her phone. Whatever the rules are, make sure the family boundaries are clear with everyone. For us, when we are with friends, we like to play together. Sometimes towards the end of a playdate we let the kids play an old school Nintendo game (with the other parents permission). Every family is different, so just take time to state and adjust rules as seen fit.
What is Video Game Addiction (VGA)?
Video Game Addiction, or VGA, is when gaming has taken over a child’s mind, actions, and life for the worse. Often times, they are preoccupied and perhaps on edge looking for the next gaming opportunity. This addiction can affect their emotions, personal drive, grades, hobbies, sports, responsibilities, and relationships.
VGA can cause children to neglect what used to matter to them like hobbies, family, friendships, schoolwork, and more. They can lie about gaming time because they crave the next rush and can become irritable or sad if the addictive needs aren’t met. Because priorities are skewed, they are not living into their full potential and grades can decline, sports and hobbies are pushed to the sidelines, and so much more!
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