Congratulations! You’re about to embark on the most rewarding (and sleep-deprived) adventure of your life. Babies are tiny, adorable tornadoes of chaos, and having the right gear will make the journey a whole lot smoother. Below is a list of must-haves for both your baby and your postpartum recovery—with a sprinkle of humor because, let’s face it, we all need a good laugh between diaper changes.
What I Wish I Knew Before Giving Birth to My Baby
Bringing a baby into the world is a life-changing experience, but giving birth during a pandemic? That was a whole different level of chaos. When I had my baby in the middle of lockdown, hospital policies were constantly changing, supply chain issues meant even the most basic baby essentials were out of stock (who knew finding diapers would feel like a scavenger hunt?), and the typical in-person support from family and friends was suddenly… virtual.
Like many new parents, I had to figure things out on the fly—what was truly essential, what baby products were worth the hype, and what I could absolutely live without (looking at you, wipe warmer). Let’s just say there were plenty of sleepless nights, a lot of trial and error, and some hilarious misadventures along the way.
Survival Guide for YOU
Fast forward to today, and I now have the absolute joy of watching someone I love step into this wild, wonderful world of parenthood—my dear cousin is expecting her first baby (a BOY!) in just a few short months! What started as a simple suggestion list for her baby registry quickly turned into this comprehensive, real-talk survival guide for all expecting parents.
This isn’t just a list of must-haves—it’s a mix of practical advice, first hand experience, and a few hard-earned parenting hacks to help make those early days just a little easier. Whether you’re preparing for your own little one, building your registry, or just looking for guidance on this journey, I hope this resource helps you feel a little more ready (or at least makes you laugh). So grab a coffee (yes you can have coffee), take a deep breath, and let’s get into it—because trust me, parenthood is a ride like no other!
1. First Things First: Create a Baby Registry
A baby registry helps you keep track of essentials while letting family and friends contribute. Think of it as a wish list for survival. Here are some top registry options:
Amazon Baby Registry – Huge selection, fast shipping, and that magical completion discount.
Target Baby Registry – Comes with a free welcome kit full of goodies.
Buy Buy Baby Registry – They’ll try to sell you everything under the sun, but their perks are solid.
Babylist Registry – The holy grail of registries. Add items from multiple stores in one place.
What You Actually Need
Sleep & Nursery: Because You Might Get Some Rest
- Bassinet/Crib – Halo Bassinet | Graco Pack ‘n Play
- You’ll quickly realize that babies prefer your arms over any sleeping surface, but hey, one can dream!
- Swaddle Blankets – Muslin Swaddles
Think of these as baby burrito wraps. Because a snug baby = a happier (and hopefully sleepier) baby. - Sound Machine – Hatch
It’s like white noise for your baby… and therapy for your overtired soul. - Baby Monitor – Nanit Pro
For when you want to stare at your sleeping baby from another room instead of in person.
Diapering & Hygiene: Where the Real Fun Begins
- Diapers & Wipes – Stock up on multiple sizes! The hospital will start you off with newborn sizes, but trust me, they outgrow those fast.
- Diaper Pail – Get one that lets you use regular trash bags. Because the specialized ones are ridiculously overpriced.
- Changing Pad – Keekaroo Peanut
No fabric = no washing poop explosions. Enough said - Butt Cream Arsenal – Aquaphor, Vaseline, Butt Paste—because diaper rash is the enemy.
- Bibs & Burp Cloths – You’ll go through these like a teenager goes through data on their phone plan.
Baby Bath Essentials
- A baby tub
- Muslin washcloths
- gentle, water-based body wash
Feeding Essentials: For Keeping That Milk Machine (aka You) Running
- Bottles – Get a few different ones. Your baby will let you know (loudly) which they prefer.
- Breast Pump – Spectra S1
Check with insurance! Most cover a pump, so you don’t have to drop a small fortune. - High Chair – Wait a few months on this one. Facebook Marketplace is your friend.
- Gliding Chair – Underestimated but highly recommended. Because you’ll spend more time in this than your actual bed.
Clothing & Gear: Things You don’t Think You Need (But Really Do)
- Swaddles – These save you from late-night origami struggles with regular blankets.
- Onesies – ZIPPERS ONLY. Snaps are a cruel joke at 3 AM.
- Baby Carrier – Ergobaby Omni 360
For hands-free parenting… aka your ticket to making a sandwich or pouring a glass of wine while holding your baby. Find a local babywearing educator to SAFELY wear your babe! Check out Hope&Plum (a size-inclusive, women owned babywearing company who has an owner local to MD!) - Car Seat & Stroller Combo – Research this one! Pro tip: Find a Child Passenger Safety Technician (CPST) to help with install. Sometimes they can be your local firefighters or police officers!
Health & Safety: For Your Tiny Human’s Well-Being
- Infant First Aid Kit – Because babies have an uncanny ability to get into trouble.
- Prepare for emergencies with a Baby & Child First Aid Class
- Nasal Aspirator – NoseFrida Snotsucker
Disgusting yet effective. Prepare to question your life choices. Or get an electric one.
Postpartum Recovery: Because You Deserve Some TLC
- Peri Bottle – Your bathroom MVP post-birth.
- Postpartum Sitz Bath Soak – Like a spa day, but specifically for your sore downstairs area.
- Disposable/Postpartum Underwear – Not sexy, but necessary.
- Cooling Pads & Perineal Spray – Because you’ll appreciate anything that soothes.
- Belly Support Wrap – Helps everything feel more “together” while your body heals.
- Breastfeeding & Pumping Needs – Nipple cream, nursing pads, hands-free pumping bra, and a Boppy pillow = survival tools.
- Compression Socks – Swollen feet are no joke.
- Postpartum Pajamas & Robe – Because changing out of pajamas into new pajamas is the peak of early motherhood fashion.
- SNACKS! – You will be hungrier than a teenage boy. Stock up!
2. Childcare Options: What Works for Your Family?
One of the biggest decisions new parents face is childcare. Whether you’re planning to return to work or just need an extra set of hands, it’s important to explore your options early.
Childcare Centers – Licensed facilities with structured environments and multiple caregivers. Great for socialization and a learning-rich setting. (Pro tip: Start researching ASAP—many centers have waitlists!)
In-Home childcare – A smaller setting in a caregiver’s home, often with fewer children and a more personal feel.
Nannies & Au Pairs – A more individualized option for families who want one-on-one care. Consider a nanny share with another family to split costs.
Family & Friends – Sometimes, the best option is a grandparent, sibling, or trusted friend who’s willing to help.
Workplace or Co-op Childcare – Some employers offer on-site childcare or stipends for childcare costs. Parents can also form cooperative groups and rotate caregiving responsibilities.
Helpful Resources for Finding Childcare:
ChildCare.gov – A national resource for finding childcare assistance programs.
Care.com – Search for nannies, babysitters, and daycare centers near you.
NAEYC Accredited Centers – Find high-quality early learning programs accredited by the National Association for the Education of Young Children.
Upwards – A network of in-home childcare with flexible hours.
3. Prepping for Baby’s Arrival: Because Last-Minute Chaos is Not Your Friend
1. Prep Freezer Meals – Future you will thank past you for not having to cook with a baby in one arm. Make and freeze easy meals like soups, casseroles, and slow-cooker dump meals. You can also create a meal train where your village can sign up to drop off meals on designated dates.
2. Set Up a Postpartum Care Station – Stock up on pads, peri bottles, witch hazel, nipple cream, and all the not-so-glamorous things you’ll need for recovery.
4. Pack the Hospital Bag –
(Don’t be the person packing between contractions!) Here’s a quick list:
✔ Comfy clothes (nursing-friendly)
✔ Toiletries
✔ Baby’s first outfit
✔ Snacks (hospital food is… hospital food)
✔ Chargers & extra-long charging cable
✔ ID & insurance card
✔ Chapstick (trust me on this one!)
5. Get Organized
1.Get the Paperwork in Order – Have your ID, insurance, pediatrician’s info, and birth plan (if you have one) ready. Some hospitals allow you to pre-register to speed up the check-in process.
2.Contingency Plan for Pets & Older Children – If you have other kiddos (furry or human), make sure you have someone lined up to take care of them when you go into labor.
3.Install the Car Seat – Fun fact: They won’t let you leave the hospital without a properly installed car seat. Head to your local fire or police station for a free installation check.
4.Declutter & Organize Baby’s Space – Because once the baby arrives, you’ll be too sleep-deprived to remember where you put the diapers.
6. Get Involved: Shaping Early Learning Policy
Parenting isn’t just about swaddles and sleep schedules—it’s also about creating a world where our children have access to quality care, education, and support from day one. Whether you’re navigating childcare options, figuring out how to balance work and family, or just want to stay informed, getting involved in advocacy and policy efforts can make a huge difference for you and future generations of parents.
Here are a few ways you can get involved and stay informed:
- Join Local Parent Coalitions
Many communities have parent-led advocacy groups that fight for better childcare, paid leave, and early education policies. Here are a few to check out:- Under 3 DC Coalition – Advocates for affordable, high-quality childcare in Washington, DC, supporting families and early educators to ensure every child gets the best start.
- MomsRising – Advocates for family-friendly policies like paid leave, affordable childcare, and early childhood education.
- National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC) – Works to improve early learning programs and advocate for policies that benefit young children and their caregivers.
- National Women’s Law Center – Champions parental rights and fights for affordable, high-quality childcare for working families.
2. Attend School Board & City Council Meetings – The policies that shape childcare, pre-K programs, and parental leave are often decided locally. Your voice matters!
3. Contact Your Representatives – Reach out to elected officials to support policies that improve early childhood education, parental leave, and childcare subsidies.
4. Encourage Your Employer to Offer Family Benefits – Push for better parental leave, workplace childcare, or flexible schedules.
7. Start Saving: Planning for Baby’s Future
It’s never too early to think about your child’s financial future. From saving for education to planning for unexpected costs, setting up financial security now can pay off big in the long run.
- 529 College Savings Plan – A tax-advantaged account specifically for education expenses. Some states even offer matching contributions! My529 – One of the best college savings plans available.
- Saving for College – Compare different 529 plans by state.
- High-Yield Savings Account for Baby – Start an account for future expenses like childcare, extracurriculars, or emergencies.
- Custodial Roth IRA
- Life Insurance & Estate Planning – While no one wants to think about worst-case scenarios, setting up a will and guardianship plan ensures your child is cared for no matter what. LifeHappens.org – Guides for parents on financial planning, insurance, and estate planning.
- Teach Financial Literacy Early – Even toddlers can learn about saving! Consider a piggy bank or savings account to introduce money management.
8. Parenting & Baby Apps to Keep You Sane
Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, but these apps get pretty close:
1.The Wonder Weeks (iOS & Android) – Helps you track baby’s developmental “leaps” (aka why they suddenly won’t stop crying).
2.Huckleberry (iOS & Android) – A lifesaver for tracking baby’s sleep and offering personalized sleep coaching.
3.Glow Baby (iOS & Android) – Keeps tabs on feedings, diaper changes, naps, and more in one easy-to-use app.
4.WebMD Baby (iOS & Android) – Expert-backed guidance on baby health and symptoms.
5.Peanut (iOS & Android) – An app to find mom friends and connect with other parents nearby. Because parenthood can feel isolating, and adult conversations are nice!
9. Remember: You’re Not Alone!
It takes a village, and thankfully, there are plenty of parenting resources, support groups, and apps designed to help. Whether you’re looking for guidance on sleep training, feeding, or just need reassurance that you’re doing great (spoiler alert: you are!), these tools are here to support you.
So take a deep breath, embrace the chaos, and enjoy the journey. One day, you’ll look back and miss these moments (even the sleep-deprived ones—maybe). Until then, lean on your support system, trust your instincts, and stock up on coffee.
You got this!
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